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Subject: Need STD AdviceQUESTION: I think that people should be tested regularly for STDs, but my guy has other ideas. He donates blood several times a year and he says if had anything that they would notify him. (We live in NYC.) IS THIS TRUE? He also says that he's never been with anyone dirty. Like he could tell if a girl had a STD by the way she looks LOL. We always use condoms for intercourse and oral, but sometimes we sleep together naked and we rub up against each other. How can I encourage him to be tested without making it a case of "You'll do it if you care about me?" REPLY: That's a great question. I don't know that the people at the blood bank test for STDs but it seems less than responsible of him to be relying on THAT. I think they might test for a couple of things, like HIV and maybe hepatitis, but geez, there are lots of STDs out there. Your gut instinct is correct, the only way to know is to be specifically tested for STDs. Many couples do this as just a respectful thing. And a way to build trust. I know you are worried about offending him but really - it's your health we're talking about here and only YOU can take full responsibility for that. And part of taking responsibility is a reasonable expectation that your sexual partner(s) will go get tested when asked to. It's not about if he loves you, but does he value and respect you and honor your needs to protect your own health? - KT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [ submit a tip/comment for this question here ] | [ submit a new question here ] User Submitted Tips/Comments: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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