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Subject: InexperienceQUESTION: As of recently I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 weeks now. He hid that he was a virgin from me which upset me greatly when I found out after we had sex. I told him this upset me and I wished he would have told me because I would never have taken it from him, but he shrugged it off like nothing. Well now that he is no longer a virgin we have tried a few other times in private to enjoy ourselves. However with him having been a virgin, he does not seem to have the slightest idea how to go about it. I have been trying to teach him what I know but it is so awkward teaching him how to have sex and please me just right. My question is, is there anything you can think of that would make it less akward when I am trying to teach him to please me just right? I am not sure he knows it feels awkward to me, but it does and I would like to know if you have any advice on how to make it less awkward on my part and possibly on his. I have not asked him yet if it is strange for him to be taught. REPLY: Well, you too must have awkward moments when you first started having sex so a little understanding and compassion might be a good place to start. You have only been seeing him for 3 weeks. This is not a lot of time. All couples need to communicate what they like and what makes them feel good - this has less to do with sexual experience than it does getting to know a new partner. Rather than look at as awkward and uncomfortable, how about looking at it as a fun adventure you can both have to try different things and see how they feel. He's got to be feeling performance pressure so lighten up and have fun with it. - KT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [ submit a tip/comment for this question here ] | [ submit a new question here ] User Submitted Tips/Comments: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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