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Subject: SoftiesQUESTION: My fiance and I are a few years apart. I'm in my 30's and he is in his late 20's. The first time we ever had sex it lasted for hours. Since then after he ejaculates once, he cannot keep an erection.. We have tried to just keep the stimulation going so he wouldnt lose his erection but everything we have tried has not worked at all. He also doesn't have control so when he feels it arising he cant stop it or hold back. Even pulling out and stopping for a few doesn't work, he ejaculates most of the time anyway. He doesn't have a problem satisfying me any other way and is willing to try anything to help. Can you help? REPLY: Most men lose their erection after ejaculating, and it's the rare - and lucky - guy who doesn't. So your boyfriend's softie is absolutely typical. In fact, men are built this way - ejaculate, and then they fall asleep because endorphins are pumped into their systems. This can be very annoying to females, as I'm sure you know. At his age, he should be able to get another erection after a refractory period of, perhaps, half an hour. So, just noodle around until it returns. As for holding off on his climax, this is a matter of technique. He will have to practice holding off and learn when to read the signals to stop. The best way to learn this is through solo masturbation. One thing that helps is to press hard into the perineum when he starts to feel the sensation coming on. This will stop the sequence. So, he's got some work to do. - KT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [ submit a tip/comment for this question here ] | [ submit a new question here ] User Submitted Tips/Comments: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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